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Finding Old Friends

If you've found yourself wondering whatever happened to whats-her-face, it might be time to use the internet for finding old friends and reconnecting with long lost girlfriends.

We are all so mobile now. People move cities, change jobs, take a posting overseas, marry, have kids...

Where does the time go?

It's easy to lose track of your old friends, especially once they marry and start a family.

It's likely you have lost touch with what were some of your closest girlfriends through time or travel. The good news is, it's now easier than ever to use the internet for finding friends.

The difficulty is often plucking up the courage to make the first move in finding old friends. It's an adventure. Something between a sleuth trail and a treasure hunt. Have fun with it.

The internet has made everything possible. Of course the old fashioned way of asking contacts about friends and following up on old mailing addresses and phone numbers is still the first obvious way to start.

But when that goes cold, try the internet.

  • Google your friend's name. If their name is not very common, you should be able to see something in the first few pages that may provide clues to where your friend is these days. If they have a common name, you may have to go quite deep to find an entry that you think could be your buddy.

  • Use social networks. Facebook and My Space are two of the largest social networking sites on the internet. You will have to set up an account in both (it's free) to search their databases for someone in particular. Be lateral and consider searching for their children's names if you don't find your friend.

  • Some social networks will include a list of schools or colleges as community sites. Search those as well for signs and connections.

  • Telephone listings and international directory assistance are all on the internet now too. Look your friend up. If you have a last known address, contact directory assistance to see if it is still active or if there was a forwarding number left.

    The trouble then is, once your find them, what do you do with them??

    This can be a delicate balancing act. Take it slowly. Don't bowl her over by re-inserting yourself into her life straight away. Much has happened and she may need a little adjustment time. Even so, try to make a date in the not too distant future to meet face to face at an informal place, say over coffee or a casual lunch.

    This new relationship needs to be reconstructed. You may find that you have a lot of catching up to do because of all that has happened in your individual lives, or you may find you reconnect emotionally immediately. You will know by how your first meeting goes which is the best way to proceed.

    Try it today and have fun with it. The rewards in reconnecting with old friends are very special.

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