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Let Go

If we are to truly move on with setting new goals and achieving new things, we have to learn to let go of the things that have held us back in the past.

You've been an adult for quite a while now and it's time to review what your life is turning into and where it will go from here.

If you are carrying baggage from your childhood, early adult years or even your recent past, you have to let go. The only person it's weighing down is you.

I had occasion in the recent past to have some formal counselling over some baggage I was packing.

I visualised it as a really heavy suitcase in the middle of a road. (No prizes for imaginative imagery, but it worked for me).

I found it extraordinarily hard to walk away from it, even though I desperately wanted to leave it behind. I finally managed to 'walk away' and lose it from sight.

The psychologist said this was where most people got stuck. They could identify the 'baggage', but they struggled to change their own behaviour sufficiently to walk away from it.

Modify Your Behaviour and tame the Beast

Each of us needs to take responsibility for who and what we are, especially by the time we are mature adults. For some it is a more difficult journey than for others, and should be treated with a range of responses.

If your complaints are not too serious, think about what you can do to leave them behind or change your response to them. Decide how you want to meet the challenge of the situation you are facing and then, enact your response. Be deliberate.

If your issues are more serious, you should be seeking assistance from a professional counsellor. Many people hesitate to do this, but it makes a world of difference. This can be clergy, a medical doctor or a trained counsellor, psychologist or psychiatrist. With appropriate guidance, it's amazing what can be overcome.

Check out the article on Forgiveness for additional information.

It takes time to do this. Give yourself that time. It will be worth it to free yourself from these issues for the next 35 years of your new life!

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